How to End an Emotional Affair ? 5 Steps To Take To End Emotional ...

You?ve gone too far and you know it. If you don?t end it now, it may become sexual and then it may be too late to recover-for you, for your partner and for the person with whom you?ve become overly involved.

You?ve violated the boundaries of a commitment, not with your body, but with your emotions.

Your affection is tangled up with someone who is otherwise committed or you are the person who has allowed an opposite sex friendship to become a passion. As hard as it may be to disengage yourself from an emotional affair, you know it needs to end. But, how?

There?s No Sex, So Why Quit?

If being faithful to a partner only meant being chaste outside a relationship, you?d be home free. You haven?t broken your promise physically, so what have you really done wrong?

?The role of an affair is to create emotional distance.? ? David Moultrop from Husbands, Wives and Lovers: The Emotional System of the Extramarital Affair, 1990

Women?s extramarital affairs are more emotional than sexual. ? Glass & Wright, study of marital dissatisfaction and extramarital involvement, 1985

Non-sexual strong emotional attachment is experienced by 44% of husbands and 57% of wives who have affairs. ? Shirley Glass in Not ?Just Friends?

?In an emotional affair you keep secrets. In a friendship, you do not. Friendships do not lead to divorce.? Mary Kearl in AOL Health, ?Signs of an Emotional Affair?, 2009

?About half of such emotional involvements do eventually turn into full-blown affairs?? MSNBC

In Over Your Head

On the surface, an emotional affair seems innocent enough. Two people enjoy one another?s company, share great times and become close. So far, that seems like friendship and that?s what it is, until the pleasure of the company reaches an emotional tipping point and begins to dissolve the unspoken relationship, the one that includes an existing partner, who is the most distant member of the triangle?often clueless and utterly deceived.

Symptoms of an Emotional Affair

*Desiring to spend more time with a friend than a partner.

*Sharing highly intimate details of a committed or marital relationship with a friend.

*Withdrawing physically and emotionally from a committed spouse or lover.

*Being secretive with your partner about the time spent with a special friend.

*Daydreaming or sexually fantasizing about being with a friend.

*Feeling that a friend understands you better than your partner.

*Experiencing jealousy over a friend?s relationships with other people.

The Betrayers

Many times, for the two people inside an emotional affair, nothing seems wrong. Without the sexual aspect, the close friendship appears to safely bob above the level of an affair. Deep feelings between the friends are not denied, although they may be subdued on purpose. What is dismissed in an emotional affair is the damage caused to a core relationship and to the victim spouse or lover. Denial of that damage can remain as long as the affair never reaches a physical level.

The Betrayed

The partner of the spouse or lover wrapped up in emotional infidelity may be unaware of the relationship destruction taking place. Not always. Even with strong hints that an affair exists, an uninvolved partner may prefer to remain in the dark.

Emotional distance already exists between partners who have problems with intimacy. When the issue is not addressed or resolved, this makes an affair easier to rationalize for the partner who strays. It also satisfies an irrational need of the uninvolved partner to maintain a continued emotional separation.

Ending the Affair

As difficult as it may be to put an end to an emotional affair voluntarily, stopping it only after it has been discovered is far worse. By then, the consequences that result may mean there is no turning back for any of the three people ensnared by it. Dragging out the end of an affair is doing no favors for those affected by it. Action needs to be definite and immediate.

1. Disconnect ? It?s time to dispense with the constant phone calls, texts and emails. In order to make the break, both parties in the affair must know that what has been can no longer be and that starts with an end to communication. Ending contact needs to happen abruptly. Letting it linger may give the impression that there is room to negotiate. Spell out clearly that further contact will not be made and that future friendship will not be possible.

2. Expect Affair Fallout ? It will probably be true that the decision to end an affair may not be a mutual one for the people involved. This should not influence the decision by one party to stop it, even though it does present risks, including retaliation.

3. Tell Your Spouse or Lover ? You have exited the affair, but there are painful obstacles still to come. Sitting down with your partner and telling everything? that you have been too intimate with another person, that you have stopped the affair and that you are sorry for breaching the relationship?s boundaries?is all part of an affair exit that is designed to help resolve the reasons that may have led to the affair in the first place.

4. Relationship Reaction ? When a partner hears of your affair, the reaction may be one of disappointment, shock and rejection. You have gone outside your promise and the backlash may be severe, but this is part of the consequences. The impact of your news is a realization that the emotional affair was wrong and hurtful.

5. Recovering the Relationship ? After the disclosure of an affair, a betrayed partner may want a separation or divorce, but that?s not always true. The shock value of the affair can also be used to strengthen the couple?s bond by highlighting the fact that there are now recognized problems in the relationship that can no longer be ignored. Partners, now free of the deception and clutter of an affair, have the truth plainly in sight and can take the opportunity to seek solutions, between themselves or through professional counselling.

Time To Act:
Bust Infidelity

Stop being the victim, stop living in self-denial, stop living in pain, stop living in agony and stop living in self-pity.

Be bold and take the first step in confronting the truth even if the truth is ugly and not what you want to know.

Now is the time for you to act. Whether you want to confirm your fears or catch your partner or spouse cheating on you with evidence, I can help you.

CLICK HERE To Get Instant Access To FREE TIPS To Catch A Cheating Partner.

Content About : How to End an Emotional Affair ? 5 Steps To Take To End Emotional Infidelity Article

-- Download How to End an Emotional Affair - 5 Steps To Take To End Emotional Infidelity as PDF --

beverly hilton roland martin whitney houston dead at 48 whitney houston dead 2012 whitney houston passed away heartbreak hotel don cornelius